HELP ME I'M A GIRL CHALLENGED LOSER?
I'm a 17 year old junior I go to an all guys school. 1.) i never had a girlfriend though I have/had a lot of girl friends 2.) I never kissed a girl. I dunno the moment never came and if it did, I missed it. 3.) I don't freeze up around girls but I have a tendency to be awkward or say a wrong thing. a lot of the times I don't have anything to say even though I want to. 4.) most my guy friends all have done stuff with girls and I havent and I feel like a loser because I can't even join in on the conversation. 5.) at mixers and clubs I don't dance. the girls are slutty and that's usually an automatic cue to grind with em but I always get a fear of rejection. 6.)I went out with this girl last night. we were in my house alone and we didnt do anything. I I like this girl and she might have an interest in me. problem is, she's an exchange student from Poland. f*ck me right? last night wasn't a flop but it wasn't the best night. the first night we hung out was awesome. how do I recover?? 7.) she leaves around June or July at the end of the school year. there's a chance I will never see her again. I really like her a lot but what should I do any tips will help, thanks
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First of all the worst thing you can do is call yourself a 'girl challenged loser'. Girls love confidence! That's not exactly confident. In fact it's hurting your self esteem. How can you expect girls to like you and love you if you don't even love yourself? You need to do things that put yourself out of your comfort zone. That's the only way you're going to change. Dance with girls at mixers and clubs, who cares if they're sluts. It's like you're going to date them. Just have a good time. Talk to them. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable! About the girl from Poland : ask her out again. Take her to do something that you really enjoy doing. Girls really like that. Compliment her, make her laugh. Be yourself. Don't worry too much about the future, just think more about the now. You never know what tomorrow will bring. -Good luck & hope this helps!
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Man, you have great opportunity! She is alone, abroad, encircled with (i guess) Americans, who doesn't have a good opinion in Poland... give her what other guys can't give! Which means: - Be a gentleman: open the door for her, help her with coat, walk her home or at least make sure she reached home safe and sound. - Care for her: offer her your jacket if you think it's cold. My ex bf used to bring me a hot donut in winter, when it was cold and i was hungry after finishing my classes in late afternoon. That was great! We are laso very patriotic and we like our traditions. 6th December is a St. Nicholas day when people give eachother small gifts. You can impress her with sth nice and small and even more with your knowledge and respect towards polish tradition. Honestly, I think that we feel a bit like 'poor relatives', comparing to Western countries. Being interested in Poland and stressing that we are important and have great achievements would make her feel better. Find out when is her b-day. - Don't push. There's nothing worse than a guy that is desperate on getting laid. You'll notice the moment when she'll want to have closer physical contact. That can be your advantage on yoiur friends. - Offer her some sort of activities that you both like, and that can be an excuse to see eachother regularly: movie club, dance course, volunteering once a week...(the last one will also mean that you are more 'deep' than the others...)
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