Should I tell her I love her?
I've been with my girlfriend twice. She is a foreign exchange student from poland. The first time we were dating, we were dating for about 2 1/2 months. I told her I loved her too early and she broke up with me. She said that she didn't want to get in a serious relationship before she went back to poland. Anyway a month went by and I got the attraction going again and we've now been dating ever since. We just hit 5 months a couple weeks ago, 3 if you don't count the first two months. We've gotten really really close since then, and she is leaving in 7 days. I don't think I really loved her before, but now I know for a fact I do. I love her deeply and I don't want to see her go. I'm afraid to tell her how I feel because I don't want to push her away again. Even though she's leaving, I'm going to Poland for a couple weeks this summer, so I'm afraid to drop the L bomb. How do I know if I should or if she's ready? brittany, you're fuckin stupid... your answer is irrelavant she always talks about how much she's going to miss me, last night she told me she had a dream that I was the one leaving and not her.
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1 :
Well look 7days is too less to know anything. You should have started preparing her mentally atleast 2-3 weeks back. However, what you can do is tell her. I mean you'll atleast try. If she says no then however, she's gonna go. Try your best to get a yes. Best of Luck mate.
2 :
Why don't you ask her if she is looking for a serious relationship first...
3 :
ask her to see wat she feels about the relationship now.she probably dont want to say it ethier because there is someone else but ask her how do she feel and y do she keeps traveling back and fourth
4 :
sure go for it answer me plz http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100523180920AAnU69M
5 :
Don't drop the L bomb again but ask her you know about taking your dating to another level.....like a relationship and see how she responds just ask her but don't make it seem like you need an answer right then and there keep it simple. You can't force someone to like you as much as you like them if meant to be then its meant to be if not even though it may be hard you may have to just move on if she doesn't feel the same way by now.
6 :
Well if you love her, then i say let her know. 5 months is long enough for someone to fall in love and seriously if she didn't love you back..they why is she hanging around? Oh and tell her this: kocham cie [ko-hum-cher]. Which is 'i love you' in polish :)
7 :
you know that song by John Mayor? "Say What you Need to Say" "it is better to say too much than to never have said what you needed to say." that is pretty much my motto. answer mine please? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100523225538AAIykCw
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If i were you i would save it. If you are going to Poland to see her in the summer you should hold off because if it does push her away then your summer plans may be ruined. I would say save it for the trip over there, and near the end, because by going over there she will have the satisfaction of knowing you would travel at length to be with her, as in a way to prove your love.
9 :
You scared her the first time, and maybe you'll scare her again if you say it again. However you say you've gotten to be really close with her, so maybe she'll accept it this time and maybe she feels it back. Is she always talking about leaving or is she talking about how much she'll miss you? If it's the latter, you can probably assume she has feelings for you. If it's the first, maybe you shouldn't say anything more than "I'll miss you" because you just never know. Since you'll be going to Poland anyway over the summer, I think that you should wait. You've only been dating 5 months, 3 months, whatever it is. I would want you to wait and let the love either grow or diminish before you speak anything...
10 :
I think some people get a little scared with the whole usage of the word "love". Some people have heard it before and gotten hurt so that makes them apprehensive, or they associate it with straight away leading to things like marriage etc. Others are comfortable with it and think along the lines of: what is wrong with vocalising it if it is what I feel? So you have to decide what you're comfortable with, what you think she is comfortable with, and what the consequences of either saying it or not, could be. I think SHOWING love is very important and if you are doing that, sometimes that can be enough for a person to know how that person feels, without them having said it. If you feel that she might pull away again, think about how you would feel with just showing it and not saying it yet. If you think you can deal with this then maybe hold off a bit. But if you feel you are just bursting and need to tell her, just say it. She can either say she feels the same or get scared, or say nothing. Who knows what the outcome will be, but if you feel that it is something you really want to say, just do it and don't regret...if she isn't the one that loves you back or can at least handle the fact that you love her, then another girl in the future will... At the same time if you feel that you can be with her without having said it, then just go with the flow and enjoy the relationship without putting the words to it. good luck :o)
11 :
my best edvice is to tell her "babe... i know ur going 2 b leaveing... and im not going not 2 see you... and im going 2 miss you all kinds... so b4 u leave i wanted to tell you... i dont think i love you but i 4 shure know IM FALLING IN LIKE WITH YOU..." any girl who doesnt think that is cute is out of this world...but annyways i think she will like it and maybe say the same... GOODLUCK :)
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