Cheating 23yrs.how do?
I previously posted a question on what to write to my cheating husband of 23 years, most of you said there's really not much to write. I him 6 times,he said it was just emotional, now i found out he was living with a foreign exchange student that he hired from poland for 5 months in our bed at our vacation home where he was opening a restaurant. I spoke with her she admitted all the details(she back in her country)and wants forgiveness because she was only 19 when this happened. I filed for divorce, and I've been vomiting up to 3times per day, they just released me from the hospital with 8 bleeding ulcers, I still feel like crap and he brought me flowers, still won't admit it, how do i live in this house will him for the next 60 days. not only that, he got us into forclusure we lost the other home and he used the money to fund his business. I feel so stupid how do i get the strength to get through this shattered life?
Marriage & Divorce - 12 Answers
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1 :
just pray and take care of yourself first and foremost
2 :
Leave him, and go stay with family.
3 :
oh my god
4 :
I think you need to go back to the hospital.. I'm being serious.
5 :
first and formost..i'm sorry for boys with stupid penises...they don't deserve you.....how dare him....after what you have been through...you shouldn't feel sorry for yourself...pick your feet up and go.....in the bible it says..."what goes around, comes around" or was that justin timberlake?? idk.... and if anybody gives me a thumbs down..you know better...and if anybody reports this...they know the cold hard truth.......BLESSED ME!!!
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That is a lot to have to deal with. Is there no where else you can stay while you wait for divorce to go through? It is going to be hard to be in the same house with him. If you have to stay, you have to gather yourself up and consciensly put a guard up and refuse to engage him.
7 :
I'm not a religious man... but one thing I do believe.. karma is the best revenge. What goes around comes around. Leave him, get yourself healthy and your mind cleared and move on with your life. Sounds like he moved on 23 years ago.
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Put this in the hands of god he's big enough to handle anything if you trust and believe.
9 :
Think of all the things you always wanted to do but couldn't because you had this millstone around your neck. Think - once you're free of him you can get a job and a little place to live - even a studio flat will seem palatial when you're the queen of all you survey. You make all your own choices, eat what you like, clean up when you feel like it (or not) sleep on the sofa if you feel like it, get any pet you want, do whatever you want.... My life shattered too, but now I have a better one because it's all mine!
10 :
Cheating is something that goes on a lot everywhere. It is so common that i would probably have to say a lot of men and women who are married do it. I know how you feel. As little girls people learn to have this great wedding and great husband and etc. Well sometimes life throws you a curve ball. In your case it is several curve balls. This is what you need to do. Don't go digging deeper. Just let it be. Sometime it is better not to know than to know. Just leave him and don't ask for additional detail. Just remember you have done nothing wrong. He has to live with this for the rest of his life.
11 :
You need to dig deep inside yourself to figure out whether you can forgive him. 1. The interesting thing about the pain you are suffering is that you perceive it as inflicted by him. Do you know that the pain you are feeling is due to his deceit and your perception that you are the victim? 2. While it is true that you are the victim, the forgiveness you (and only you) have the power to offer may affect him in a small way. He might be relieved. 3. The truth about forgiveness is that it actually affects and cleanses and purifies the person forgiving. I have felt victimized by deceit - it took me a long time to forgive the person who deceived me. 4. It did not affect her that I held that enmity in my heart; it affected me; it affected my personal relationships with my friends/ my family/ my future girlfriend. 5. It may sound backwards but the sooner you forgive him - the better you will feel and the sooner you can move on. Good luck, strength comes from community - look to your family, and your church. Sharing this story over and over will hurt, but each time you share it will become a little less painful. You may also need to be on a PPI (e.g. Nexium or Prevacid) - talk to an ENT, or a GE Dr.
12 :
look u hang in there cause u need to get well, and take over the new bizzness he is starting make sure he puts everything in ure name,if he loves u like his now saying he will do anything u ask of him,,i no my women did abou tthe same thing to me,,then win u get to feeling better u open up u a savings account n ure name he needs to no nothing abou tit..n hey u can try to stay with him bu t my wife lasted 2weeks n then she was out looking for some one else,,but i got everything n my name now n my little savings account,,and i am glad shes gone...so u keep thinking about sweet revenge,,cause honey it will make u feel better,,peace n love b with u.
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