Wednesday, August 7, 2013
Have I Lost My Chance?
Have I Lost My Chance?
Okay, so I'm a Junior in High School, and I'm pretty shy. This foreign exchange student from Poland, who I have a crush on, happens to be in my History class that started last Tuesday. She sat right in front of me and I think she was interested in me at first. We talked the first day pretty easy, but ever since then, it's been hard for me to strike a conversation. It's been a week now, is it too late for me to start talking to her, or have I lost yet another chance due to shyness?
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1 :
no its never too late! good luck! :)
2 :
nope
3 :
just ask her out and if she turns you down you can move on and stop wasting time! i hate it when guys are shy and do nothing... a big turn on is a confident guy that goes for what he wants!
4 :
dude, you can totaalllly talk to her aqain! :]
5 :
Its never too late. Dont give up, keep trying to win her heart. Goodluck!!!
6 :
its never too late...just go for it! once you get over the initial shyness and start chatting it'l be so much easier after that and soon you'll be chattign to her like she's one of your close friends. Good luck :)
7 :
nice guys finish last. But it's never to late. you gotta giver her something so she knows your into her dude.
8 :
Nahh, dude. Talk to her. Girls ALWAYS want you to talk to them first. Trust Me :)
9 :
a week is not very long at all. You still have a chance.
10 :
umm no go ahead and talk to her wht do you have to loose?
11 :
ofcourse its not too late.
12 :
nahhh I'm a girl who is 16 A week is nothing, if she really actually likes you. Talk to her the next day you see her. Just ask if she has an extra pencil you could borrow or ask for a sheet of paper or something. oh, and don't be like "Hey, can i have a pencil" Say her name! Then she'll be be like to herself in her head "Omg he said my name heheheh llalalalla" Oh and then when you have to give her pencil back at the END of class, just start walking out with her then walk her to her next class or to her locker. and be like talk to you later/see ya or whatever Okay, don't worry about it. GOOD LUCK!
13 :
its DEFINATELY not too late. you should try talking to her about an assignment, or something stupid like , can i borrow a pencil. if any of your friends talk to her , try talking to you friends while their around her, then strike a conversation with her. perfectttt baaaabby ;)
14 :
It is definitely not to late. ask her how her classes or going. or just throughout the class make comments about the stuff your learning or if something funny happened.and dont let your shyness get in the way. i am a pretty quiet person but just have confidence. If you don't have anything to say i wouldn't force it, but even shy people have something to say every once in a while.
15 :
It's never too late. She's an exchange student, talk to her about Poland, how she likes it here, it will grow better from there. Good luck.
16 :
No, of course not! But you have to talk to her or she could feel that your not very interested. Goodluck sweetie!
17 :
nahh just talk to her again!!!!:)
18 :
No its not. Shyness can be an attractive characteristic to many girls. However keep in mind that they enjoy someone with a good humor and that provokes some type of communication. Girls enjoy talking about themselves so ask her about Poland and if she likes it here and during that process you can simply ask well what do you do onthe weekends and go from there. you seem like a good guy so it shouldnt be hard to get more comfortable with her. Good luck
19 :
i think you still have a chance you just have to approach her soon. you should be like do you wanna go out to do...(something american that they dont do) and then she'll be like what is that and then you can say you dont know what it is? oh its really cool or fun or whatever you have to try it. or you can jusr ask her out to do somehting simple.dont be shy because im pretty sure that if she was interested in you before you have a chance. i know its hard not to be shy when your a shy person but you should have a little more confidence since you say you think she was interested in you before. hope it all works out:)
20 :
Oooo well put yourself in this girls position, ok well i will. She got on well with you the first day but you haven't spoken to her since, well she might think that you didnt like her. Sooo most girls expect guys to be forward and that they have to do all the chasing, im a girl and i suffer from shyness and i have let so many chances slip through my fingers lukily most guys take the lead but you are a guy which is hard for you. Purposly walk past this girl or sit by her and smile and say hello, pretend you dont know the answers and ask her. Dont leave it too long because she might think you dont like her. When you do eventually make conversation ask her if she has an email or soemthing and you can chat on there. Also she is a foreign exchange student she is going to be feeling pretty alienated so make her feel welcome and just talk about any random thing that comes into your head! Good luck!
21 :
no, its never too late. maybe u can ask 2 meet each other some time. or walk her 2 her next class. deer r a ton of ways to get her attention, but overcome ur shyness.
22 :
Let me give you a brief language lesson... The word "Gentleman" is really a combination of two words: GENTLE and MAN. Gentle can be defined as "affable, agreeable, benign, meek, trained... and nice." Man can be defined as "boy, chap, dude, or... guy." GENTLE MAN = NICE GUY. The concept that the two are any different at all just doesn't work. Saying you're a "gentleman" who doesn't know how to flirt, is the same as saying "I'm a man who likes to be nice to women and get nothing in return." Now, if that's what you want, by all means, consider yourself a "gentleman." You'll get a lot of nice smiles, and "thank yous" from the women... Right before they go home with another guy who ISN'T YOU. But here's where I think you're getting confused... You don't NEED to be a jerk to easily attract women. It is possible to be NICE to women and have them be attracted to you. But you can't simply be a sexually-neutered "nice guy" or "gentle man." You NEED to have an aspect of male sexuality to your personality (i.e. flirting and teasing).
23 :
No. Ask her a question about your work,homework,classwork,anything. If you text,ask her for her # If your a guy,don't be shy!! Guys shouldn't be shy. Get over it,be a guy,which is making a fool of themselves.
24 :
Not at all, she must be the shy one, if she is from polland... but now you must move! why dont you talk to her more... how did you started you first conversation? Try again in the same way... Become her dearest friend... Find out things that she like and talk about them in front of her... try to to make her talk more than you d.. be a good listener... Now could you help me: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjDpF1CFRMXuR01Mp1ilLdzsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100126150933AAxBpbS
25 :
You have already answered your own question. Girls love being flattered. If you walk up to her before class one day, and say, "Hey, I have missed not speaking to you after our first day in class. Sorry for acting so shy, would you like to get together (wherever you youth hang these days), I would love to hear more about you" Do that with confidence and suck up your shyness for the 15 seconds it will take to say that, and even if she acts like she's brushing you off (which I expect she won't based on your previous conversation with her) you will absolutely make an impression.
26 :
Never to late but I don't think it's due to your shyness though to me this always happens....you finally talk to the one you like and then after that it's as though that's the only thing you wanted and that's it. But all you have to do is try to start another conversation, put your shyness aside because sometimes when your shyness takes over you you lose your oppurtunity. It's not to late...if you really like her that much you would act like you have the highest self esteem and confidence.
27 :
Go (conversationally) for all the marbles--ask her to see a movie with you or go grab dinner somewhere that's not fancy but isn't McDonald's, either. She might like a bold question and it gives her a chance to give you thumbs up or not on whether or not you guys have a future. If she says "no", then you definitely know where you stand. If she says yes then don your best cologne and take her out and have some fun. Girls your age are much more mature than guys are so surprise her, be bold and show how much you care about her. And you do, 'cause you wouldn't have posted to this forum if you didn't like her.
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