Should I leave my husband if he is doing this?

Should I leave my husband if he is doing this?
My husband work as a driving instructor. He's always busy in summer but in winter, he got a plnty of time with me and my daughter. He would never help me out with the baby and housework. I would always do things around the house when baby sleeps and take care of baby when she wakes up and I hav to clean up after him all the time. I haven't gone out of the house since she was born. I totally understand when he woreds hard and he was tired, so he couldn't help me. Even it's winter now, he doesn't have much students but still he said he's tired.. I was complainig sometimes but always do everything. However, he was just always pissing me off. I asked him to watch our baby for 5 mins coz i needed to take a shower after feeding her. it's been the whole day that I cooked, cleaned and did laundry. I was exhausted. I was in a shower for 2 mins and heard the baby cried, so i sneaked out to see what was my husband doing. He was just playing games on computer and let her cry it out. He just never wants to do anything with the baby and th house but when the baby cried in front of me. He would just say that I'm a bad mom. Why did I let his baby cry. When she needs to change her diaper, he would just wait to tell me to go change her. I can count how many times he hold our baby since she was born. What do you think I should do? Sometimes, I was thinking I should have leave him alone here.. I'm from Thialand and have a student visa and my husband is from Poland and he is waiting for his greencard. Do I need his permission to leave the country since we both are not american citizen but the baby was born here. we got married in las vegas but never done anything officially for our paper. We don't even get our daughter's birth certificate yet because he is so lazy. We only have our daughter's birth certificate from hospital..Can I go and get her birth certificate for her by my own or do I need him to go with? I don't wanna wait for him to go with me anymore since he is always procasinate. I wanted to get her passport but not sure if I need him.
Marriage & Divorce - 12 Answers
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1 :
You can easily obtain her birth certificate on your own.
2 :
yes file for divorce
3 :
I'm Polish and I know Polish men can be terrible :-/ I would talk to him because not helping his own wife in house work is very uncool. He should help you do this stuff. Maybe do a compromise with him or something. If talks won't help then I would consider leaving him because I wouldn't want my daughter seeing how her father doesn't give a crap about anything. My boyfriend was the same ( we dont have kids tho) but he NEVER helped me to do anything. I tried NOT doing anything and leaving everything dirty in our place but that didn't help because I couldn't stand living in a dirty place, so I told him to at LEAST clean after himself. Put the dishes into the sink, dirty laundry in the bathroom etc. He agreed and it worked. Sometimes he even will wash the dishes. That's something. Hope it helps. Good luck
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Sounds like my ex. husband. What I'd do is to take care of the baby and stop taking care of him. Don't pick up after him, don't make meals for him, and explain that if he can't help you, when you take a shower, then you can't help him either. Why do you need him? You can get a job, get support from him, and find a new guy who would be willing to be a better partner to you. Go get her passport. You do not need him to do this. Enough waiting for him. I think he thinks that you are his maid and caregiver. Why put up with this?
5 :
Well it's ok for the baby to cry it off. but him not helping you and telling you that you are a bad mom after you do all for the baby and him....that's just not right. I don't know if he needs to be there but I would try on my own instead of waiting on him. Give him and option....either he helps you or you are out, since it doesn't seem he's around anyway.
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Why do people ever get married? If he was slightly lazy and put things off before marriage it was bound to get worse afterwards. You can't just take off with the baby..the last time I knew you both had to make that child NOT just YOU! That would not be a very wise thing to do. Unless you want the courts involved and him coming after you and maybe in the end you losing you're child and going to jail. And whats wrong with talking things out? The answer isn't just to throw in the towel..oh he gets lazy..let me just run! That's crazy I'm sorry..sit down, talk to him in a nice way..tell him you need a little more help and in turn try doing nice things for him..it will give him the incentive to help you more.
7 :
think things straight out and i do think that you need his permission to leave the country with your daughter to get a pass port ....... talk to him about what you don't like that he keeps doing....
8 :
You should leave now.
9 :
You can do all those things without him. Get a birth certificate for your daughter, take her home to Thailand, and never look back. Your Polish husband is a woman hater, a user, and is emotionally abusing you. he does not love you or your daughter. You are just there for housework, childcare, and sex. Get out now.
10 :
Sounds like he is around for his green card. I'm sure you would have to produce some sort of paper work to leave the country. You can go get the birth certificate or if you have internet access you might be able to log onto vitalchek.com and get the birth certificate. Eventually you need to move on from this man. He has no care, at least it seems. Your daughter will sense this. Find someone who will be your companion and love you and your daughter.
11 :
I would be gone. Why don't you already have a copy of the BC? You can go get this on your own, don' t need him, for anything apparently, oh except his income, I can assume you don' t have a job. But personally, I would of left his ass a long time ago and went back to Thialand.
12 :
LOL a drivers instructer tired? My uncle is one. And he has 2 other jobs as a football coach and a teacher. He has a girlfriend and always has time for her. Sounds like hes just being lazy! Geez, I'd find a way to get out of that for a while.

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